Make It Personal

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Leaders – the most important thing we do is – pray. Then, leaders make it safe & personal.

In many environments, it is easier for a discussion to be theoretical than for it to be personal. Of course, there is value in learning things that are interesting – but our hope is that gatherings are transformational. Transformation happens when we are vulnerable and personal.

Vulnerability starts with the leader. Our gatherings will mirror the way we lean in and share ourselves. Leaders can also use some tools to help their gatherings be more personal. Here are some questions to help make things personal and some practices to help gatherings be more personal.

Tips to make it personal

  • Spend time sharing stories (i.e. testimonies, how they came to know Jesus, their life story, etc.)
  • Do a weekly check-in with a simple question. For example “what the best and worst part of your week?”
  • Ask a follow-up question when people share. For example, “tell us more about that.”
  • Break the gathering into smaller groups for discussion and/or to pray for one another
  • Rotate host homes, giving others an opportunity to host and share their home.
  • Affirm what people say, validate them, and thank them when they share
  • Instead of answering every question, ask people what they think. Personal questions for group discussion :
    • What about this message is most convicting/impactful for you?
    • Is there anything the Holy Spirit has brought to mind this week?
    • How did what we talked about last week impact you this week?
    • How can we support you this week?


You can also check “25 Great Questions” for more ideas.